4 Things I’ve Learned in My 20s

Hello, lovelies!

As I approach my mid-20s, I realize that I have learned a lot of lessons in those few short years. I’ve seen so much growth and development in my life and within myself. The woman I was at 20 even feels different from the woman I am at 23. I wanted to share a few things that I’ve learned along the way in hopes that it’ll help any of you who are in their 20s!

Know your self-worth and value

This is something that I’m still learning. Knowing your self-worth is important when you’re speaking up for yourself or advocating for changes. I would be afraid to speak up if I noticed something wasn’t right, or unfolding in a way that it should, and silence only hindered me. Know that you are an asset, and you have so much to share with the world!

It’s okay to make mistakes

I often felt guilty when I made mistakes, and believed that the mistake was my own fault. If I failed an exam, or had an error in judgement, I blamed myself for it. If I could tell my younger self anything, it would be that mistakes are part of the learning and growth process. You will make mistakes along the way, and that is not a sign of weakness.

Take care of your skin 

Love your skin, and it will love you back. This is a huge thing that I wish I’d realized upon entering my 20s. Take care of your skin and it will be worth it. Until a few years ago, I didn’t have a consistent skincare routine, and my complexion paid the price for it. Now that I have a routine that works for me, my skin is brighter, clearer, and much easier to care for.

Follow your own timeline 

I felt like I had my entire path mapped out at aged 20. I know people who graduated university in the standard 4 years, and I was envious. It’s taken me nearly 6 years, and I’m set to graduate this spring. Life is not meant to have a strict timeline, and you often have to follow your own path. It may take longer than expected, but you’ll achieve the same result in the end!




10 Things I’ve Learned in My 20s

Although I’ve newly entered my 20s, I’ve learned a lot in the past year and a half. For us Millennials, the 20s are a time of trial and error. We’re still learning, growing, and developing.

1. Never settle

This counts for anything from relationships to a job. I’ve heard this piece of advice time and time again, and always sticks with me. I have learned that if there’s an aspect of my life I’m not content with, I have the control to change it.

2. There is beauty in everything

It’s possible to unearth beauty in anything. While I may not believe it 100% of the time, I’m beautiful. As I’ve alluded to in earlier posts, beauty is both internal and external. Beauty is not only just within yourself, it’s also found in all aspects of life.

3. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again

It sounds cliche, but if you aren’t successful the first time, keep trying. I’ve learned this many times. All goals, and dreams, are attainable. Some may take longer than others. Some may include a failure or two. But if you work towards a goal long enough, you’ll achieve it.

4. Self-care is important, too

Maintaining mental and physical health are equally important. I truly recognized how important self-care is upon completing my social work placement. It’s difficult to take care of others until you take care of yourself first.

5. Say no to people/places/things that don’t add value to your life 

Letting go is hard, but liberating. It is scary to let go of people who have been a constant in your life, whether it’s been for months or years. I realized myself the feeling of change that occurs once someone is let go from my life. It feels different – strange even – for a while. With time, I adapted to the new normal.

6. Strength will guide you

I learned this before turning 20, but it still holds true today. Strength and resilience guided me to where I am today. These two qualities were important keys to overcoming adversity. I often say I’m like a rubber band – I always bounce back. Strength and resilience guide you, shape you, and empower you.

7. See the best in people

Not seeing the best in people won’t benefit you, or them. See beyond imperfections and flaws to recognize the other person’s qualities.

8. Being selfish is okay sometimes

Sometimes you need to be selfish; take time for yourself to relax and indulge. Decompressing and focusing on yourself does wonders for your health and well-being. After a busy few months, I’m taking time for self-care and relaxation.

9. A good night’s sleep does wonders 

Sleep heals and repairs. I’ve often heard how a good nights sleep will heal most ailments, and I certainly believe its true. Unwinding and recharging with sleep helps, and does wonders for the mind and body.

10. Surround yourself with people who reflect who you want to be

Energy is contagious. I’ve learned to surround myself with people who share the same energies as I do. This has contributed to increased happiness and motivation.

What are pieces of advice have YOU learned as a Millennial? I would love to hear about it! 







The Modern Rules of Navigating the Dating Scene in Your 20s



Dating can be hard. For us Millennials (those of us in our 20s) it can be even harder. We face unique challenges, thanks to the rise of the digital era. To date, we must jump through hoops. In earlier generations, certain pressures were not as prominent. The stress of decoding a text message or creating online profiles did not exist. The rules are always changing.


He finally texted you back. Your fingers are itching to hit “REPLY”. According to dating logic, you must not reply immediately or else, you’ll seem desperate. And, whatever you do, you should not text first. Ascribing to these unwritten “rules” is difficult. It is hard to know whether it is acceptable to break these rules or not. From my own experience, I have often wondered if a notification serves as a sense of validation.

Online Dating

Websites like Match and eHarmony have gained popularity in recent years. Some of these websites may be suitable for finding a relationship. But, not every website will do the trick. More recently, apps such as Tinder have emerged. This has complicated dating even further. Most times, the main purpose of these apps are hook-ups. This complicates the task of finding a more long-term relationship.

Relationships v.s. Casual Hookups

Some in their 20s still seek casual hookups, while others want a serious relationship. It is helpful to know which end of the spectrum you wish to fall. Often, it is difficult to immediately distinguish who is seeking the same thing as you. This may not occur until the relationship has progressed. In the case of a casual hookup, you may not detect the intentions of a potential partner at all. This can complicate the task of distinguishing if a potential partner is on the same page as you. They may be, or they may seek a completely different type of relationship.

A question for my lovely readers: How have you navigated the challenge of dating as a Millennial? 


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